Does post Christmas get you down?

The presents are opened. Thank yous are exchanged. The turkey dinner is done. The friends and family have gone home There should be a feeling of peace and happiness from everyone. Tis the season of good tiddings and all!

But there isn’t ¬† ¬† ūüė¶

The¬†phenomenon that I have heard referred to as ¬†“The Christmas Letdown”

There is so much build up to Christmas months of prep hours shopping. Time spent¬†decorating¬†and planning, all leading up to one day. The when it is done….. now what?

Often I heard people say “never again”. Though the reality is we are creatures of habit, we’ll do it again just like last year and the year before.

Why do we have this desire to have one day of the year filled with presents and glitz and so much stuff? Does it make us happier? Maybe for the day but how long does it last? Far too many people have stuff of Christmas day then run out boxing day and buy more stuff. Or exchange what you didn’t like to get something better.

Then you have stuff. Does the stuff make you happy? Does it fill you life with joy? Maybe it does for for now but in a week will it still be the best thing ever?

Small and simple Christmas

We really worked hard on decreasing the stuff this year. We didn’t make a big deal over Christmas stuff we focused on what was important, FAMILY. It may have been just us but it was one of the best days we have had in awhile. I didn’t stress over a fancy dinner, we had meatloaf.

We kept gifts to a minimum and they were mostly useful gifts, books, watches, blankets, PJ’s and a few small toys. Honestly unwrapping was done in like 45 minutes. The kids were happy they got what they had wanted. I suppose I’m lucky that they didn’t want much. (¬†definitely¬†an advantage to no TV and homeschooling ūüôā )
We are fortunate that our¬†families¬†are very understanding about our desire to keep the stuff to a¬†minimum. They understand our desire for memories and quality over quantity. ūüôā

Do I feel a¬†sadness¬†that Christmas is over? No. Why not?¬†Because¬†other then a few extra presents, snow and Christmas carols, and a tree we didn’t do really anything major. Christmas will come again and I will continue to keep it stress free.

Time spent together is better then money spent on each other

Maybe next year there will be a big dinner but I don’t get stressed about having people over either. I enjoy good¬†tidings¬†and fun.

Avoid the Christmas let down by keeping things normal and keep your focus on what is¬†important. The stuff isn’t, the people and memories are!

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Thankful Thursday ~~~~~ My Children

So cliche isn’t it? I’m thankful for my kids, it is such an easy one to come up with. It is an easy go to when counting your blessings.

But why?

Why am I thankful for my boys?

Let me tell you why.

They bring me joy even in the darkest moments.
They love me always and unconditionally
Their smiles lights up my world
They help me realize who I should be
They are wonderful examples
They are helpful
They are honest
They have fulfilled my dreams in so many ways

Thankful Thursday~~~ My values

I am thankful for my beliefs and values. They make me who I am. They shape my family and pass on down to my children.

My values make me stronger, they give me strength when nothing else does. I know who I am!

Through accepting my beliefs and values I have accepted me. I am who I am. Sometimes it isn’t always easy to be forging your own road, One that is different from those around you , but I know what I stand for and I can’t change who I am.

I love you for you. Please love me for me.

I don’t do the things in my life to be against you. I do them for that is what I believe is right for me.

The Rights of a Child

Today is National Child Day. Today we celebrate the rights of children.

Canada’s national “Child Day” is held November 20th each year as enacted in Bill C-371, otherwise known as the¬†¬†Child Day Act, by the Parliament of Canada in 1993.
It commemorates the United Nations adoption of two landmark documents concerned with the human rights of all children and youths.
On “Child Day”, Canadians honour our children and¬†The United Nations Declaration on the Rights of The Child¬†¬†on November 20th, 1959, and the¬†The United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child¬†¬†on November 20th, 1989.
The Convention spells out the basic human rights to which children (under the age of 18) everywhere are entitled.
The purpose of Child Day is to promote awareness about the Convention to Canadians .
It is also a day to support Canadian children’s rights by voicing your concerns about Canadian children’s rights violations to the politicians of Canada and to educate our children about their rights and responsibilities.
All children have rights. More then just basic rights of food, water and shelter. Children have  the right to being cared for in a loving and understanding home, whether that be with the parents or another designated home. They have the right to social security, to grow and develop in health. I love that there are so many rights put out for our children to keep them safe and equal human beings in this world.
I feel that there are a few things more for me personally that children have rights to!
I¬†believe¬†all children have the right to the best food for their health, even in infancy. Yes I mean human milk, if you can’t produce it there are other ways. I believe that a child owns their body, all of it even from the time they are born, they have a right to not have their bodies modified, unless truly medically¬†necessary¬† I believe children have a right to be equal with all other human beings, they are not less¬†because¬†they are little. I¬†believe¬†that children have the right to be children. That means they can play, laugh, climb trees and snuggle. They have the right to learn their emotions, it is a big job and they need your loving kindness.¬†
Children are wonderful little gifts.  They are innocent precious souls. How you treat them will form how the new generation will be. While you must fill their rights laid out by the UN, remember to fill their rights are a person, as you expect your right to be filled.
  

Thankful Thursday~~~~ My village

They say it takes a village to raise a child, and it’s true. I think it also takes a village to uphold a woman. We are not alone in this world, we need to remember that. Women have more power then they give themselves. They have a divine nature that is amazing and wonderful.

I am thankful for all of the women in my life. They are all close to my heart, and I think about all of you often. While we may not always be in close contact I wish my thoughts could be¬†transferred¬†directly to you so you would know how often I think of you. Each one of you have contributed a special part of who I am and where I’m going in my life. Each of you have touched my life in your own special way that you have forever changed me with our relationship. I love you all, I love your¬†fiercely, and I always will. Without you I wouldn’t be who I am. I just want you to know whether we talk often, or barely at all. If we have lost touch over the years, I am thankful for you!

Thankful Thursday~~~~ Canada Rocks

Okay this week I am thankful for my country, Canada.

I’m sick and we have a health care system that yes I pay for monthly but it is not some¬†ridiculous¬†amount. ( but those who make less money don’t have to pay as much or pay nothing at all) I can go to any Doctor I wish and get treated. I love not having to stress over whether or not I can afford to take myself or any¬†member¬†of my family to see a¬†physician. I also have the choice to take their advice or leave it. While not every Doctor agrees with how I choose to keep our family healthy there isn’t anything really that they can do about it.

Oh and I also love how amazingly beautiful it is up here. The seasons the¬†mountains, the valley’s,¬†¬†the¬†prairies¬† the lakes. I love fall and I love the beauty of it all. How lucky am I?

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Thankful Thursday!

In honour of my Thankful Challenge every Thursday in November I am going to post what I have been most thankful for this past week.

I am so thankful for my husband. He takes care of me and our children so well. He is super helpful, responsible and dedicated. He helps me in ways no one else has ever helped me. He has been with me through thick and thin. three pregnancies and their subsequent births. I have not a doubt in my mind that he will always be there for me as a wonderful support system. Together we are a team, together we are stronger.

I am thankful for my maternal grandparents. They are amazing wonderful supportive people who have been there for me and have always loved me. They have NEVER stopped loving me or fighting for me. I will be forever grateful to have them in my life.

Learning to be Thankful ~~~~ A Challenge

Are you truly thankful for what you have in this life? Do you show gratitude in all that you do? Are you an example for others in your gratitude?

Living your life full of gratitude is a great way to be happier with your life. Unfortunately in this day and age of Me Me Me! It is hard and harder to do. We are constantly bombarded with new fancier gadgets, and trinkets. The commercialism in everyday life is overwhelming. As adults we have more of a choice in the matter, but the children fall most greatly to all this pressure. I often see one of two situations, children asking and getting or children asking and getting yelled at. Neither of these methods tech children gratitude. Now a days children have just about no concept of money and how people go about getting it.

Now there are some¬†people¬†who say that children are ungrateful little mongrels, always¬†whining¬†and demanding. I simply don’t believe this is the case, mainly because¬†these¬†behaviors¬†are¬†taught. ¬†If we want our children to have an attitude of¬†gratitude, then we need to have one ourselves.

I know for me sometimes it is hard. Some people seem to have an easier time just being thankful where they are in life. I always want something better. I’m not super materialistic, it’s not stuff for me( all the time) but it’s places and doing things with the kids. I know I am¬†plagued¬†at times with thoughts of ¬†“if we had more money….” This is not good thoughts to have. You don’t need more money, stuff or time. You need to be thankful for what you have. Yes we all need more money and time! But if we are thankful for what we have, the other stuff will come.

Express appreciation to people when they help you. This is more than just a simple thank you, sometimes it is actively acknowledging what it is that you are thankful for. Look at people and smile when you express your thankfulness.

Try this. For one month take each day to really be thankful for something. Be specific and genuine. Follow through on your gratitude. If you are thankful for someone, let them know. People do like to know that they are appreciated for the hard work the do. You children will see this, they are surprisingly observant.

Now I’m not saying be dramatically thankful, be genuine. Give it a real effort and see what happens.

Are you up for the Challenge?

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